Think about the most embarrassing moment in your life. If you can’t tell your therapist about it, then you might want to reevaluate your relationship with them. Here are some things to look for when you are starting your relationship with a therapist:
They are of current happenings especially around social justice
They don’t jump to giving advice
They create an atmosphere of safety
They challenge you
They allow you to ask questions
They ask for feedback on how sessions are going
They don’t pretend to be the expert of your life
Does your therapist possess some or all of the qualities on this list? Then you’re in great hands!
If not, it may be time to have a conversation with them about your needs and possibly move on to another therapist. Therapists are human. As such, they are not made to be a one-size-fits-all and will have limitations. They are not made to meet our every need. Some therapists may check off all of these boxes, others, perhaps not. The choice is in your hands here. You get to pick whose chair to sit in!
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