3 Reasons why you should APOLOGIZE to your children

If you're like me, receiving an apology from your parent (especially your African parent) is not something you are used to. It probably plays a role in why you struggle with apologizing as an adult. When was the last time you apologized to your child? As parents, we make the mistake of viewing our children as undeserving of apologies due to the social hierarchy placed between children and adults. But here are 3 reasons why you should apologize to your children if you're interested in building a strong, lasting relationship with them:

1. You model ACCOUNTABILITY

   Apologizing to your children is an opportunity to demonstrate humility to your children. It shows emotional intelligence as well as maturity when we are able to take ownership of our actions and communicate that to others.

2. You build TRUST

Apologizing to your children tells them that their feelings are valid. Whatever hurt they feel due to your behavior is worth an apology. It tells them they are respected and this can deepen their emotional connection with you and fosters a safe environment where children feel seen, heard and valued.

3. You bring BALANCE

Your child probably feels powerless in the parent-child dynamic and when you apologize, it restores balance by acknowledging that adults make mistakes too. It tells them that respect goes both ways, giving them permission to also be imperfect but correct their ways or redeem themselves.

So let me ask again. When was the last time you apologized to your child?