Dr Phebe Brako, LMFT, LMHC, NCC

Your parents may never have said those three words directly. But you heard them — in every sigh, every sacrifice that became a ledger, every moment "after everything we've done for you" hung in the air. The Words That Were Never Said Out Loud They may never have sat you down and said it directly. But you heard it — in the way they recounted every sacrifice when you made a choice they didn't agree with. In the way their eyes filled with quiet disappointment when you prioritized your own needs....

Immigrant Parents and their ideas of self-care

I just got off the phone with a friend who asked why I wasn't in bed yet. I have been trying to build a habit of going to sleep in a timely fashion but tonight has been a failure, between a restless mind and a kid who refuses to stay in his bed. I explained that I was trying to write but it felt like I was experiencing a block. I went on to explain that talking through writer's blocks often helps me through them. In talking about this, I realized I wasn't exactly experiencing a writer's...