Talking about kindness in relationships may seem like a no-brainer. But ask yourself the last time you were intentionally kind to your partner. You know those nice things you do for your friends, like texting them when you’re picking up your lunch at a restaurant and asking if they want anything? Or that nice, gentle way that you tell them they’re wrong when they bring a situation to you? Those are some of the things we need to continue to do with our partners as well. Chances are that you and your partner started off as friends. It’s easy to slip into the relationship or marriage phase and let those nice gestures ease off. We start taking each other for granted and don’t take some of these gestures as seriously. They need to continue to be priority. Imagine how it feels for your partner if they see you being kind to everyone but them. It doesn’t make for a healthy connection between partners or make them feel like a priority.
Here are some simple ways to be kind to your partner:
Say “Thank you” every time they do something for you. Yes, even the simple mundane things like passing you the salad at the dining table.
Pay attention to the language you use with them.
Ask if there’s anything you can do to make their day better.
Give a hug or kiss when you say “Bye” before leaving home.
Send a random text of appreciation to brighten their day.